Marriage

Not too long ago, I heard several women complaining about their husbands. No, this is not the first time i have heard a group of women get together to gripe about their husbands and tell all the single women not to hurry to get married (or this last time just me), but it just got me thinking...

Why is it that so many of these women have gotten so bitter --even proud of their bitterness-- towards their husbands?

One of the women saw a happy older couple and said there was no way they had been married long, they had to be newly weds to still be happy.

Why?

Why can’t a couple that has been married for years on end, still be happy?

My grandparents have been married 50. They still love each other.

And don’t give me crap about I am not married so I have no idea what it is like!
Yeah, I am not married, and often fear ever getting married.

But no way does every couple that ever gets married have to end up going badly -- staying together or not.

I have heard women almost bragging at how mad they get at their husbands and the silent treatment they give him for it and how that makes them even madder.

How does someone “in love” enough to get married get to this?

Where is the commitment?

The servant hood?

Yeah, everyone has bad days... but some of the things I have heard of couples doing to each other is so full of bitterness there is no way it could just be from “having a bad day” or “a little argument”.

Heathe Stoner (despite the name he is one of the wisest men I know) once said you don’t have to fight. Like married couples don’t have to fight. He has been married for about ten years and has three kids. He still says that. He never said they don’t disagree, but they don’t have to get all stormed up and yell at each other or not talk to each other before they just sort it out.

They are still happy together.

They are not newly weds.

Commitment, servant hood, true love (not just emotion), humility, are what is going to make a good marriage. If those are not there, you’ll be just like all the women i have heard gripe over the years about who they chose to marry.